High School Bully Apologizes To Former Classmate After Watching His Viral Gay Marriage Proposal On Facebook

A week ago, we shared the beautiful marriage proposal of David and Lucas. The couple shared their emotional proposal video with the following message:

What do you do when you want to give your boyfriend the surprise of his life? If you’re Lucas, you just have the police shut down a major city street, get STEP UP star Briana Evigan and a bunch of other hot dancers to shake their booties, and make sure all of your friends are standing by with cameras and kleenex. No video could possibly capture the magic we all felt that night, but this one sure does a damned good job!


One of the over 190,000 views the video has received so far, came from the former high school bully of Lucas (We will refer to him as B.)

B contacted Lucas on Facebook after watching the video on Facebook.

B wrote:

I’m sure you have no idea who I am. I went to high school with you. If you do remember me, it’s probably not positive as I was a bit of a asshole back then. I saw your video today on Faebook and wanted to say Congratulations! No need to respond I just wanted you to know that I think what you have is awesome and wish you the best.

Lucas shared his Facebook correspondence with his former bully, below:




Watch the marriage proposal below:

Lucas and David from LUCAS and DAVID on Vimeo.

Lucas also took some time to share with us his bullying experiences in High School and the closure he received after being contacted by his former tormentor.


Can you tell us what kind of bullying you experience in High School?

Lucas: Well I don’t want to play the victim too much because I know there were and are lots of kids that have it way worse than I did, I was well-liked for the most part but I got my fair share of name-calling, aggression, and was beat up more than once. The worst of it was really just being shut out of groups that I really wanted to accept my friendship.


[Lucas (left) and David (right)]

How did B bully you, if you can remember?
He, specifically, was not terrible, but in my memory he was definitely lumped into a group of guys that caused me some distress. The kind of clique that motivates you to succeed and prove that you’re worthy of being accepted.

How did you cope with bullying and being gay in High School?
Lucas: I tried to play to my strengths. I was terrible in any athletic capacity, and that led to some scars, to the extent that I won’t even join the gay dodgeball league. I tried to make up for it by being the BEST at everything. I was president or leader of almost every club or group at one point or another, including my Freshman class, and National Honor Society. I starred in the plays and was a champion public speaker. I was the leader of the marching band, a trumpet soloist, and I had excellent grades. I even got to speak at graduation. Laughter was my greatest weapon. I’ve always been funny and I knew at an early age that it’s hard not to like someone who has you in stitches.

What was your initial reaction when you first read his facebook message?
Lucas: I gasped when I saw the name. Then tears. Before even reading the words I just knew that this was going to be a good note, and when I read the words and his follow-up response, I sobbed. That sounds dramatic but it’s true. A good cry on-and-off for upwards of an hour.

Did B’s message bring you some closure?
Lucas: Absolutely. Like I said, he wasn’t one of the worst, but to me his apology felt like it spoke for all the people who used to pick on me. Like there was a sad little boy inside me and somebody went up to him and said, “Hey buddy. Don’t worry anymore. We like you.” It was really healing. I meant every word when I said he had given me a gift. I feel incredible.

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  1. melissa winsor on February 4, 2014

    that was just beautiful!!! I wish them all the happiness in the world!!! Same love….. one love….love=love <3

  2. Douglas on February 4, 2014

    Wow! I am a sentimental guy and this made tears stream! I am older and did not come out until I was mid 30’s. I never had the special kind of love you share.

    Things are getting better now and I hope you always know what a treasure you have and work hard to keep it alive. Bless you.

  3. Mari on February 4, 2014

    The sweetest thing I have ever seen!!You guys belong to each other!! I wish you all the best <3

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  5. Aaron on February 13, 2014

    I found my high school bully from 20 years ago on FB and he’d had some trouble with an internet troll who’d been harrassing him and all his friends werre going on about how he was such a nice person and he did not deserve this, and most of his pics were of him and his dog, and a lot of his posts about community service events and social activism. It was strange as it didn’t marry up with the person he was in high school when he terrorized me for 2 years. I guess some high school bullies DO grow up and change. I have no desire to reach out to him but it was definitely a weird feeling seeing the person he’d become and the changes he’d made to himself as a person since school.

  6. Dottie on March 27, 2014

    That was the best thing i have seen in a long time