The Six ‘Sins’ Of Gay Sex: Pro Tips For A Better Sex Life

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This column is part of a sex-ed series from Woody Miller, sex advice columnist, and author of the best-selling book, How to Bottom Like a Pornstar. This series combines porn industry secrets with innovative techniques from the latest gay male sex research.

On Friday, we showed you how to bottom like a pornstar and the week before that, we showed you how to top like a stud.

While tastes and preferences can vary widely between guys there are definitely some universal no-go’s for guys who like to top.

Among them are the six sins of gay sex: 

  1. Pulling out completely. It can pack air inside your partner’s bum which can lead to “fuckfarts,” embarrassing all parties to no end.
  2. Putting your weight on your partner. Your partner will find nothing erotic about his inability to breathe. Yes, be on top of him, but use your knees, arms and feet to make sure you’re not dropping the entirety of your weight on him.
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    Make it intimate by wrapping your arms around him like this.

    Let him feel the power of your body.

  4. Not warning your partner before you climax. First, you’re missing a great opportunity to build up anticipation. Second, your partner might want to climax with you. Remember, sex is a dance.
  5.  
    Always signal your next move so you don’t step on your partner’s feet.

  6. Staying quiet. Sex fires on all six cylinders when you verbalize your internal state through words, moans and groans. Eliminating one of those cylinders is going to diminish the pleasure of your encounter
  7. Make sure he knows what you want.


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    Tell him how you like it.

  8. Changing The Thrusting Pattern When He’s Close To Coming. Whatever you’re doing the instant you sense that he’s going to come is what you should be doing until he completely ejaculates. Now is not the time to try a different position or change the depth or speed of your thrusts.
  9. Never interrupt momentum.


     
    Ever notice that during masturbation [NSFW] you don’t change your stroking pattern as you near the point of no return? You might grip it with more pressure and increase the speed but you don’t fundamentally change the stroke, say from tight and fast to loose and slow.

    The same applies while you’re topping him. If he’s going to cum while you’re fucking him slow and deep, continue fucking him slow and deep. Keep going. Some bottoms want to be fucked even after they release their load. So don’t stop until they tell you to.
     

    The cardinal sin.

     

  10. Coming Before Your Partner Does. Generally speaking, nothing will be more disappointing to the bottom partner than a top who comes first. You’ll have to pull out and that means he has to ejaculate after you cut his pleasure in half. It’s also bad for you as a top.You want your partner to ejaculate with your hardness inside him because once he attaches the pleasure of an orgasm to bottoming he will want you again and again!
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Now that you know what NOT to do, check out all the things you SHOULD be doing to drive a bottom wild in bed. In the sexy best seller, HOW TO TOP LIKE A STUD, you’ll find some amazing advice on how to relax your partner’s sphincter, the best angle of entry and creative thrusting techniques.

What You’re Aiming For: His Prostate

A great deal of the pleasure you get from bottoming comes from the penis stimulating the prostate as it thrusts in and out of the rectum.

Let’s talk a little more about the prostate, which many people call, “The male g-spot.” The prostate is a walnut-sized gland located between the bladder and the penis (just in front of the rectum). It produces fluid that nourishes and protects sperm. During orgasm it squeezes this fluid into the urethra where it mixes with sperm and comes out as that whitish semen many of us think of as the nectar of the Gods [NSFW].

 

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In fact, the prostate produces almost all of your semen.

Obviously, the prostate is crucial to your experience of orgasm. You know that moment of “ejaculatory inevitability” when you’re about to come and you feel it deep inside you before anything comes out?

That’s because orgasm starts with the contractions of the internal sex organs (vas deferens, seminal vesicles and the prostate).

Therefore, stimulating the prostate in just the right way can create enormous sexual excitement.

There are other ways to stimulate the prostate too.

For example, this prostate stimulator is a gay sex toy developed to promote prostate and overall sexual health through the simultaneous massage of the prostate and the acupressure point on the perineum. Its ability to greatly increase the intensity and length of the male orgasm makes this prostate toy an excellent choice for your butt.

The prostate is so sensitive for some men, that simply stroking the prostate can make them spontaneously orgasm.

But the truth is, prostate stimulation is not a universal pleasure and it accounts for a great deal of the reason that some men don’t like bottoming even when it’s pain-free.

If you want to maximize your partner’s pleasure you have to stimulate his prostate in just the right way. How to Bottom Like a Pornstar will show you how to find your own prostate so you can get a better understanding of how to stimulate his. Download the book, wash your hands, get undressed and pull out the lube. I’ll wait. And for God’s sakes, close the curtains!

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Want More Amazing Sex Tips?

 

 
Then you’re going to love the rest of the book where this advice came from.

You can start reading it right now because it’s a PDF that instantly downloads to your phone, tablet, Mac or PC. How to Bottom Like a Porn Star takes you behind the scenes at gay porn shoots. Cameramen, scouts, producers, directors and gay porn performers were interviewed to share their secrets on the best ways to bottom. Add to that practical advice from colo-rectal specialist, psycho-physiologist, physician, and even a yoga guru.

Sections include: How you can take huge tops without pain, how to stay loose during day long shoots, how porn stars relax their sphincters, breathing techniques to eliminate pain, the pros and cons to douching and having an enema and so much more!

See also: How to Top Like a Stud: A Penetrating Guide to Gay Sex

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