A 15-year-old teenager shared his heartbreaking story on Reddit Sunday, asking for help dealing with his homophobic older brother who just discovered that he is gay and is dating another boy.
His 18-year-old brother threatened to out him and his boyfriend if he did not breakup with him and cease communication with him.
The teen writes:
I’ve been going along with it for a while, I broke up with my boyfriend and I’ve even gone on a couple of dates with a girl, but that didn’t really go very well. I tried talking to my brother about it but he just said that he’s trying to help me and that one day I’ll realize that this is the best thing for me and that he’s doing it out of love.
I’ve considered just telling my parents but I know they’d just send me away to one of those pray the gay away camps or they would just kick me out.
I’ve been trying to just go along with it but I feel horrible about going out with girls when I know that I’ll never truly like them in that way and I really, really miss my ex-boyfriend. I tried meeting him once secretly but my brother found out somehow (I have no idea how he found out about it) and was really close to telling my parents. He’s convinced that he’s doing the right thing but I don’t think I can keep doing this anymore and I have no clue what I should do.
A fellow redditor offered this advice to the distraught teen: “You need to keep contact with your boyfriend. Tell him you still love him. Make sure he understands why you broke up with him. Try to explain to your brother that he’s hurting you, a lot. I don’t really know what to do other than those to things because this is blackmail…I really hope that your delusional brother finds his way..”
The teen responded to the advice, saying he has spoken to his boyfriend since the brother found out he was gay. “He knows why I broke up with him. We’ve talked twice since I broke up with hm, but it’s too risky now. I did try to talk to him, but I’m trying to find information on homosexuality and Christianity so that maybe I can try to convince him that me going out with girls is doing more harm than good and that me being gay isn’t really a bad or sinful thing.”
Another concerned redditor asked: “Who do you have that you can talk to so you’re not dealing with this situation all by yourself? Are there friends you can trust? Maybe a school counselor?”
The teen replied: “I have a friend who knows, but I’m not allowed to talk to her anymore. I don’t trust my school counselor, she’s very conservative religious and known for being very quick to involve parents in a students private life.” He adds that his boyfriend’s parents “might be even more conservative than my parents. If it was just about me it wouldn’t be as bad, but the fact that he can out my ex as well makes everything a 100 times worse.”