A 30-year-old female has taken to Reddit to share her frustrations about being best friends with an attractive gay man.
In a post titled: “I’m a 30 year old female who wants to be sexually intimate with her gay best friend,” she confesses to being completely obsessed with the idea of having sex with her gay best friend after watching gay porn for the first time.
I’m a 30 year old female who wants to be sexually intimate with her gay best friend. My friend is also 30 and we’ve been best friends since 7th grade. We were always just friends, he came out in 9th grade, but we always knew that he had a thing for guys. Anyhow, we talk about our sexual flings like friends do and it never really did anything for me. Then I was talking to him about how crappy porn is and how I hate that porn always involves a screaming woman and a silent guy, so he suggested I checkout some gay porn. Well, that’s when everything changed. It was amazing, the sounds the guys made did things to me that I can’t describe and now I can’t stop thinking about my gay best friend in a sexual way. I fantasize about sleeping with him, pegging him, doing a mmf with him or even just watching him have sex with another guy while masturbate in the corner. These are the only thoughts that get me off now when I masturbate. I don’t know if I could ever make them a reality. I don’t think my friend sees me in a sexual way, when I give him a seductive glare to get something I want he’ll say “Your Jedi mindpowers don’t work on me.” We kiss on the mouth to say hello and bye but we’ve never madeout. We’ve always just been friends. I don’t know if it would even be fairgame to ask him if he’s ever wanted to makeout or have sex with me.
Should I ask him?
The Reddit community responded with an unequivocal NO!
“If you value your friendship I would not ask him,” one commenter wrote, adding, “In my experience, the realization that someone you do not think of in a sexual way thinks of you in a sexual way can not only make time spent together awkward in future, but can ruin memories of all the good times you spent together.”
Another wrote: “I want to sleep with my straight female friend. I’m a straight man. Even that isn’t going to happen.
You can ask if you want, but be prepared for disappointment.”
“Some fantasies need to stay fantasies,” added another Redditor. “Just break out the vibrator and maintain your friendship.”
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