A concerned boyfriend has taken to Reddit seeking relationship advice concerning his boyfriend’s decision to move in with a single gay friend he originally met on Grindr.
When I told him I was a little uncomfortable with the situation because I don’t know him as much, he said “Relax, and stop overthinking the situation.”
I am moving in to a place with a friend as well and he said: “I barely know you’re friend that you’re moving in with. Its the same situation.”
But the thing is my friend is straight, not gay. I had someone cheat on me in the past and its just fucked everything up in my head and for relationships in general.
Do I just trust until its broken or am I being an idiot for feeling this way? I feel like a jealous child right now.
And that’s what I told him, I’d like to hang out with him more. I’m just a little pissed about the situation. Its not that I don’t trust him, but with the two of them together, they get to share something I don’t get to. They get to eat together, watch tv together, see each other when they get home from work.
And when I come over, I’ll just be a guest in their house. It naturally creeps me out. And all he’s saying right now is: “I love you more than anything, but you need to get over it. I’m tired of living alone. We can’t move in together yet, because we’re not there yet (I agree) and you just need to trust him.”
Its just, he’s single, they’ll be alone a lot together, the chance of something happening and not telling me is just a little too high for comfort.
Fellow redditor DrDingudForrester, writes:
Don’t assume anything, but you should never fully 100% trust someone, everyone including you has the potential to make mistakes.
Again, don’t assume anything, but it’s alright to pay attention just to make sure for your sake. If your boyfriend has a problem with this then he really doesn’t understand that blind faith really means nothing. It’s essentially asking someone to ignore any sign something is wrong and just trust.
Your gut isn’t always right, and trust isn’t a real tangible thing, it’s a concept, and I only trust people who are blood related 100%. It would take years and years of dating someone for me to fully trust them.
Source: I’ve been cheated on too, by someone who really didn’t seem like the type to cheat and it taught me a lesson about life and love. 3 years of dating, the guy volunteered at pet shelters, coached little league baseball, was going to be a doctor…. completely blind sided me when I discovered he was a piece of shit.
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